It has never been a fear of mine to discuss same sex marriage. In America, same sex marriage is frowned upon. There are currently six states that actually allow same sex marriage and conservative America have fought against same sex marriage for quite some time. It seems to me the fight is not over same sex marriage. The fight seems to be more about femininity vs. masculinity. When these two definitons are looked at, there is no set notion that the person has to be male or female. It is based on the behavior of the human being. And why should anyone worry about someone else behavior, role, or attribute, if it is not their own? I will tell you why.
People believe that the reflection of another person's actions represents them. I know you are probably saying: What! But listen, how many times have you experienced someone telling you about someone else or telling you about yourself in regards to how to act or what not to do or what should be done. All the damn time. It is common communication that happens everyday and there is always someone making an opinion about the right and wrongs of how to be in society. It has escalated into a problem and the main question is not how to fix it because it will never be fixed. The main question is how do we learn to control it. By that, I mean controlling ourselves. There is so much pressure put upon each of us and I believe that we forget how much hurt is behind that pressure when the spotlight is not on you.
All of us have had an embarrassing moment in life that hurt. I am not talking about getting angry one day and happy the next. I am talking about that moment, whether you were a child or an adult, where you believed in something and someone made you feel like that belief was irrational. No one wants to feel that pain. So, why do it to others? Why not let others make their own choices and face their own consequences in life.
If a preacher or priest decides to marry a same sex couple, than let it be their choice. If you do not approve, than let that be your choice, but lets stop putting ourselves in the middle of situations that does not pertain to us. You do not have to go home with that person nor do you have to experience their lifestyle. You may see it, but that is it. You have eyelids; close them. You also have eyeballs and they are made to move, so look the other way.
Oh and by the way, don't be suprised if you are talking to your friend, cousin, uncle, nephew, niece, brother, sister, mother, or daddy who is in love with another of the same sex and wants to mary them, but you just do not know or have not taken the time to know. It happens everyday. Does the words "down low" ring any bells?
