The Fight

It is impossible to forget and it is easy to remember. It is intriguing to understand. But, how many people truly understand the fundamentals of examinating and reconstructing us? Memories are fascinating, but they are all not always beautiful and in need of keeping. And I use to ask myself why, but I learned early in my life, that every moment in life, there is a choice to make. That choice is something we have to live with forever. The challenge that need a choice made is not an issue because of the path we chose to take. Now, do not argue with the challenge. Focus on the memory. In the memory lies the choice we made. Remember the choice is something we have to live with forever. The choice is critical to the memory and the memory is deteriorating to the choice. The choice you make is impossible to forget and easy to remember. The memory a person creates is impossible to forget and easy to remember.

Okay, we do forget. That is because memory deteriorated the choices creating one final choice which is impossible to forget and easy to remember. In the business world we strive based on the answers given to us by data. That data we analyze creates the alternatives we choose. But what if we did not use data and did not focus on the patterns from our past experiences. What if we focused on present change and present outcomes? When many of our multi-million dollar companies first began, they did not rely on computing data to create facts and decision making tools for advancement. They went with a hunch and the small community values that lied within. Why is it so important now to intrigue the mind with more than just an idea when ideas and hunches created the very foundation in which we live in?

Demand

Fear does not exist. It is created and when we feed on it internally, it can weaken us. Having no fear is like experiencing birth. In the middle of it, we all realize it is real. We realize it is happening and there is no turning back. We all realize we can not remove ourselves from this moment nor can we take it away. We all realize we don't have a choice but to handle it and deal with whatever comes next.  Fear has no more time.

Say for example you are a person who is afraid of a goat. Well, think about it. If you are a person who has never seen a goat or grew up around goats, you are probably laughing right now and may have repeated what I said..."a goat? LOL". And I am not talking about a goat at a zoo. However, say you are a person who is afraid of a goat. You don't like the way the goat looks at you or you just never seen one and with it being so foreign to you, you run at the sight of one just as many do with dogs or snakes. You forgot one key thing to ask yourself. Why are you RUNNING? Okay, you win, you can argue that it can hurt you or even kill you.

Now I want to ask you another question: Where are you running to? Okay, you win you may be running to a car or some safe place that will protect you. Now I want to ask you another question: But, Why are you HIDING?.  And we will all say, "I want to live."

If running and hiding is living, than what the hell is not running and hiding? It's an analogy to life and how easily small incidents can have such great impact on the overall person. Fear causes a person to not want to face it. We hesitate a little. You ever heard someone say, "Touch it. Don't be scared. Touch it." And we have all heard those words before. We all had fear in us as well. Most of us  did not react to those words either and showed more fear. We do this same scenario with everyday incidents in our lives. Facing it opens more windows.

It's A New Day!

My experiences over the past few months have been very helpful to how I view life. Those experiences have actually help to infuse how I feel because they created another open window for me; a new journey. I have climbed through the window and I am still standing on two feet.

Many of us call it the window of opportunity. You never really know what is on the other side, but you do know its a new day. I have welcomed more peace and I have welcomed more joy and happiness than I have ever imagined. I am happy. If there is anyone who have felt this feeling, I know you understand every word that has  swept from my mouth. There is nothing but everlasting joy to come. I am on the right path. I feel it. I believe it. Therefore, I know it.

The Ginormous Bowling Ball

I wish I can strike every time the bowling ball roll down the lane. I want that perfect score. However, it does not always happen as I expect it. No matter how hard I try, I just can not strike out every time. So I have to accept the score given for that play. And what do I do? I get back up to that lane and try again, all the while laughing and giggling with those whom I have went to the bowling alley with.

Now, picture this same episode with that of the pitfalls we endure and the responses we provide to those. Do we allow the pitfalls to happen and learn from the experience or do we get upset and refuse to play? Many times this question can get misconstrued because a person can assume they learned from the experience all the while they are actually refusing to play.

How can I tell when I am refusing to play? I can tell because when I am presented with the same situation again, I make the same mistakes or similar mistakes. There is no change in the way I walk into the situation, nor in the way I handle the situation. I may be able to alter the situation and still succeed with the same mistakes, but did I put forth my full effort or was I determined that the original approach would work? In most cases, I am determined the original way would work, but I did not know how at the time. So I go back to the drawing board and critique the situation. I want to know where I went wrong and how can I make this play work. With slight alterations, it may work and in many situations it do. But what do I do when it don't? And how do I decrease my wasted time on it, so that I am not fooling around with a dead end? Do, I continue to completely change each play  or work on the ones I already tried that failed?

When it does not work, I play. I change my entire strategy and start fresh with one that is of higher risk than the one I used before. I challenge myself with the unknown and it gives me a rush. My goal is to win and in order to win, I can not be afraid to lose. I can not be afraid to start over. I show no fear. I enjoy the risk. I decrease my wasted time by research and pinpoint the confusion. Nothing is a dead end and everything has an answer. Some things just take more practice and understanding. I put the situation on the shelf and go back to it when needed, all the while I play. I change for the short-term and I do not consider it failure, I consider it a part of my ginormous bowling ball waiting to strike when needed.

Weighing Your Pros and Cons

I believe we have a daily guide as to what the day should be however, the atmosphere change when we make a different decision. Those decisions we make can change day into night quickly. I believe we find ourselves deminishing our greatest aspirations out of fear and putting forth the comfortable portraits of ourselves. To be free, you have to feel it and to feel free, you have to believe it. I believe that once we believe in ourselves, the Cons that have weighed us down in areas we should bling in the most will shine bright. Look in the mirror and truly ask yourself, "Do you believe in yourself?"

Many of you will say yes, but how many of you are only saying it based on your accomplishments? If all of your accomplishments were stripped of you, would you still believe in yourself? This belief is not about accomplishments, this is about yourself.  No one in this world can ever say they have never had a split moment where they questioned the Pros. The Cons surfaced in that split moment and for some of you, they lingered around for a while. Believing in yourself is a strength that can not be taken away once it is felt.

Once you truly believe in yourself, nothing can keep you down. No matter how many Cons come your way, it's like your heart and your brain becomes this superhero that defeats it all.

I Love To Write

I have always had a passion for writing fiction. I love to create suspense and drama that leads up to thickening plots and bursts with unbelievable endings. I have a love for writing and I will be adding a short story section to my blog. Feel free to read the material. I hope you find it interesting and fun to read. I am starting this first short story in sections. It will be one chapter at a time. It will be completely from the top of my head right before I post it and I will write a new chapter periodically. Let the writing began! Talk soon.

Keep on Pushin

A report from the American Psychological Association states “significant sources of stress include money (75 percent of survey respondents), work (70 percent), the economy (67 percent), relationships (58 percent), family responsibilities (57 percent), family health problems (53 percent), personal health concerns (53 percent), job stability (49 percent), housing costs (49 percent) and personal safety (32 percent).” (APA - Stress in America)

Wow! It is important to see that the most rated source of stress is money followed by work. If I am wrong tell me, however these two I believe draw a very close relationship. One of the biggest fears is losing your job and not being able to afford to pay your bills and provide for your family. It is one of the most important fears facing this world here today. No one wants to wake up tomorrow without a job. And those who do not have a job did not expect to be jobless. And we have so many people talking about relieving stress and finding outlets. Well, how do you find an outlet jobless? How do you find an outlet not making any money?

This is the type of stress that does not go away and can be everlasting, but I believe that instead of trying to eliminate it, we need to focus on dealing with it. Learning to undersatand that there is going to be stress when you are in a situation where you are out of your norm, helps to not be as tense when and if it does happen. I call it getting to understand reality. It is highly important to know all the alternatives to what can happen in your lifespan and not be afraid to think about them and understand them. Stop believing it can never be you. You know, I read so many stories and issues happening around this world, but in my moment of alone time, I do appreciate where I am and make sure that I remember that in any of these experiences I have observed, it could have been me. It does not stress me out, it makes me open my eyes and really see what is going on and happening around me. It helps me to understand that I am no better than the next and I must appreciate where I am rather than deny myself that "it" could not happen to me. It relieves so much tension when I do have a conflicting situation and it makes me more manageable with them.

The most important job I have is my own life and your own life should be yours too. If I don't understand what is going on around me, how can I survive? Believe me when I tell you that you won't. Learn and understand the world you are in. With that you will be suprised on how well you can keep on pushin.